Saturday, 14 August 2010

Don't wait to be rescued...

Paul Gauguin was a painter who made a mid career change. He was initially a stockbroker, but art was his passion. He realised that money wasn't buying him the life he wanted, and he wasn't becoming the person he wanted to be.

So Gauguin left his job and family (in Denmark, without enough money) and moved to Paris and then to the South Sea islands to paint. He wanted to live simply 'on fish and fruit'.

However, Gauguin's career change never answered life's biggest questions. He titled his last painting, "What are we? Where did we come from? Where are we going?" He eventually died of syphilis and alcohol abuse facing a prison sentence.


This reminds us that chasing happiness and fulfilment is the wrong strategy. It's an illusion that there is some other place, job, direction that can rescue us from our despair if only we could find it, choose it.

Ironically, this understanding rescues us from the tyranny of choice. It frees us to become present and enables us to start living our values now. We can become the change we wish to see.

Kelly Wilson argues that we should learn to accept the present moment, in all its ambiguity, as it is. He quotes the poem Burnt Norton:

At the still point of the turning world. Neither flesh nor fleshless;
Neither from nor towards; at the still point, there the dance is,
But neither arrest nor movement. And do not call it fixity,
Where past and future are gathered. Neither movement from nor towards,
Neither ascent nor decline. Except for the point, the still point,
There would be no dance, and there is only the dance.


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3 comments:

于庭吳 said...

如果你批評他人。你就沒有時間付出愛......................................................................

Rachel said...

Rob,
This is so good!
There is such a message out there in the world - 'Somewhere there is the perfect job; partner; life etc. and when you find them then you will be happy'. My lovely 18 year old son said to me yesterday,'Mum, people spend a lot of energy trying to figure out who they are, when they should be figuring out who they want to be.'

守何何何韋 said...

耐心是一株很苦的植物,但果實卻很甜美。..................................................