Tuesday, 6 July 2010

The Confidence Myth

Any career change comes down to two questions:

1.What do you want your life to be about?
2.What’s stopping you?

Very often what people tell me is stopping them is their own lack of confidence. Once I feel more confident, they reason, then I can act.

Trouble is, this is the opposite of how our brains work. Confidence actually means 'with fidelity'. In other words, confidence is the feeling you get when you act 'with fidelity' to yourself.

If that's what confidence is, then often we're expecting to feel the feelings of confidence whilst pretty much doing the opposite. The reason we lack confidence is because our history suggests we'll run away from these difficult feelings.

As ever, the choice we get in life is not about how we feel, but what we actually do. That's the deal. The paradox is if we act first, very often our feelings follow. So the question is, if you had all the confidence in the world, what would you do?

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